Or just connecting dots

Yesterday while coming back from Cafe Cursor, Reddy2go explained a major life decision. Very articulate. Very thought-out. All the reasons lined up perfectly.

Made me wonder: was that really why they decided, or are they connecting dots backward?

Steve Jobs famously said you can only connect dots looking backward. But maybe we’re not discovering patterns, we’re creating them. We make choices for messy reasons — emotions, pressure, timing. Then construct narratives that make us feel like we knew what we were doing.

I caught myself doing this. Spent months saying I wanted to move cities. Changed my whole life around it. Felt completely sincere. Never moved.

So what is sincerity? I think it’s this: enough internal alignment that you don’t notice the dissenting voices.

You have different parts wanting different things. When one voice gets loud enough or you suppress the others effectively, it feels unified. Real.

But that doesn’t mean you’re seeing clearly.

We’re all rationalizing. The question is: are our stories helping us grow, or keeping us stuck?